Sexless Marriages & Without Natural Affection 4-Generational Survey

by Patsy Rae Dawson

If you are trying to survive in a sexless marriage, chances are you are living with someone "without natural affection."

Sexless marriages are not just a problem with dead bedrooms. A lack-luster sex life is only the most obvious symptom of 24/7 daytime clustered love sins. These sins surround the core issue of being "without natural affection" as found in 2 Timothy 3:1-5.

FREE Sexless Marriages & Without Natural Affection 4-Generational Survey

Previous answers to this Sexless Marriages Survey reveal that most people don't realize what all is involved in being without natural affection. Thus, this groundbreaking, one-of-a-kind Survey begins with the primary issue of being without natural affection. Then it expands to deal specifically with the four generations that are directly affected by unloving, sexless homes.

• First Generation Checklists: Signs of Narcissism in Your Families of Origin
• Second Generation Checklists: Signs of Sexual Naivety & Clustered Love Sins in Your Marriage* or Dating Relationship
• Third Generation Checklists: Signs of Enabling and Narcissism in Your Children
• Fourth Generation Checklists: Signs of Potential Harm to Your Grandchildren

*As Applies to Sexless Spouses, Mental Adulterers, Sexual Addicts, One-Time or Serial Adulterers, and Gay/Lesbian Deprivers of a Straight Spouse

You'll be surprised at how one unloving person without natural affection damages many lives over four generations or more.

Analyze Your Answers

After you complete the Survey, you'll be directed to where you can download the eReport Analyze Your Answers to the Sexless Marriages & Without Natural Affection 4-Generational Survey.

The Survey covers all three levels of sin in sexless marriages found in Jude 22-23: Type 1: The "Doubting" Spouse, Type 2: The "Fire-Flirting" Spouse, and Type 3: The "Polluted" Spouse. The eReport "Analyze Your Answers" gives you plans for how you might overcome clustered love sins as applies to the three different levels of sexless marriages.

Get a Free eReport Everyone Is an Adult Child

When I participated in one of international expert on gay/straight marriages Bonnie Kaye’s healing weekends for women married to or divorced from gays, I had the women fill out a questionnaire similar to the Survey's Part 2: Narcissistic Homes of Origin. Ninety-five per cent of them grew up in a narcissistic home and suffered from a poor self-image as a result. (Visit Kaye's website for straight wives at http://www.gayhusbands.com.)

Early results of the Survey show that most men and women who marry an unloving, sexless heterosexual; likewise, grew up in a narcissistic home. They don't know what real love looks, sounds, smells, tastes, feels, and acts like. Consequently, they didn't recognize red flags when they dated their future mate.

Often both spouses grew up in a narcissistic home. This free eReport Everyone Is an Adult Child will help you start dealing with one of the fundamental issues in most sexless marriages.

Time to Complete

The Survey consists of 6 separate parts. Each will take 15-30 minutes depending on how much times you spend on the written questions. The snippets below show how the questionnaire is organized.

Privacy Statement

All answers are completely anonymous as your name and email are not collected.

No identifying information is collected unless you've asked me for help and I've asked you to fill out this Survey so we can get to your core problems quicker. Even then, you will enter a code word or phrase of your choice that I will not know who it belongs to until you tell me.

This Survey is not about collecting case studies. It uses Google Forms to project data summaries for identifying trends, averaging results, and projecting outcomes when sins in the home are not dealt with.

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What to Expect in the Survey

Part 1: The Core Problem--Without Natural Affection
All other problems in sexless marriages revolve around being without natural affection. The most common remark participants make is, "Without natural affection includes more than I thought it did."

Read enough to know this will open your eyes and help you make healthy decisions for yourself and your children?

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No Apologies--Christians Lack Street Smarts About Sexless Marriages

Jesus said Christians don’t have many street smarts for dealing with people of this world:

Luke 16:8: “For the people of this world are more shrewd in dealing with their own kind than are the people of the light.” (NIV)

That’s certainly been true in my case. I spent 46 years in a loveless, sexless marriage because I treated it like a Type 1 sexless marriage—ignorance of God’s wonderful sexual teaching. I didn’t know about Types 2 and 3 daytime clustered love sins that surround dead bedrooms. (Read my previous articles on the three types of sexless marriages at SongOfSolomonLoveTriangle.com under the sexless marriages tab.)

Oh How Naive We All Were Then About the Ways of Sin

Dr. Douglas Weiss didn’t write his groundbreaking book Intimacy Anorexia spotlighting the addiction of withholding emotional and sexual love while deliberately inflicting pain until 2010. I learned of his work while spending two years researching anew and rewriting The Song of Solomon Love Triangle: God’s Soulmating and Lovemaking Guide for a Lifetime of Passionate Sex.

If You’re a Preacher, Elder, or Teacher

No doubt, you’ve had many husbands and wives ask for your help with a sexless marriage over the years. It’s the #1 googled marriage problem. How did you do with their pleas for help?

My experience is that 95% of our spiritual leaders are like I was—treating it as Type 1 sin—sexual ignorance. Most of us have been clueless about the Types 2 and 3 sexual deprivers. If you don’t understand these sins, your ability to help these couples is limited—maybe even harmful.

If You’re Suffering in a Sexless Marriage

I can and frequently help Type 1: The “Doubting” Spouse sexless marriages. But there’s nothing I can do to persuade your Type 2: The “Fire-Flirting” Spouse or Type 3: The “Polluted” Spouse to love you and to keep his or her marriage vow to be an exciting lifelong sexual partner. Fortunately, there’s plenty YOU can do beginning right now for yourself…and for your children.

Don’t Make the Same Mistake I Did

I certainly would have appreciated someone giving me the Sexless Marriages & Without Natural Affection 4-Generational Survey when I was a new bride 52 years ago eager for all that marriage promises. Could my marriage have been saved if I’d known this material? I don’t know. Paul says:

1 Corinthians 7:16: “For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?”

I do know that if I’d had this information, I would have been fighting the right spiritual battles with my husband. A lack of sexual frequency is not the problem. It’s only the most obvious symptom of character sins…and secrecy. For the most part, as Christians we’re like Jesus said: We don’t have much in the way of street smarts about secret sexual sins, especially if we were raised in a sheltered environment.

We Should Make Judgments Based on Conduct Instead of Words

The Survey is all about conduct. You’re dealing with a sinner who has learned how to manipulate and blame you. Weiss says don’t believe anything they say—believe what they do. Jesus says, “By their fruit [actions] you will recognize them” (Matthew 7:16).

It’s easy to think, “That’s just the way he is” or “That’s just the way she was raised.” Or the most deadly way we deceive ourselves, “My spouse is perfect except for sex.” Because we believe that lie, we don’t recognize the red flags of secret sin. And we falsely assume that because our spouse is not interested in sex with us that he or she is adultery proof.

Sin never stagnates. It always grows. It gets so bad in the retirement years that it devastates everyone it touches.

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My Greatest Regret

Because of my naivety about sexual sin I failed to protect my children. Children are easily damaged when one parent doesn’t know how to love their mate intellectually, emotionally, and sexually. As adults, we can choose to compromise and stay.

But our children are powerless and stuck with immature abilities to deal with their parents’ shortcomings. They bear the scars for a lifetime. They frequently imitate their parents’ narcissistic or codependent behavior. But we don’t know that we’ve compromised with sinful character faults.

Forgiving myself for not recognizing the need or knowing how to protect my children has been the hardest ordeal I've had to face in my whole life. Consequently, I'm driven to warn parents about the harm done to their children by a mother or father who doesn’t know how to love the other parent…or them.

No Apologies--But I’m Making It Easier

The Sexless Marriages & Without Natural Affection 4-Generational Survey is comprehensive. I make no apologies for that. The general characteristics of the 19 clustered love sins as revealed in 2 Timothy 3:1-5 are universal among sexless spouses. But the application of the general sins is as unique as our spouse’s life experiences and home of origin. For that reason, the Survey gives assorted examples of the sins to trigger your thinking and spawn some ah-ha moments.

1. Thus, I’ve broken up the Survey into 6 Parts to make it easier to take.

2. Each part takes about 15-30 minutes depending on how much time you spend with the few written questions.

2. Snippets of the 5 remaining parts are below to show you how the Survey works. You'll get an idea of the benefits to you and what you can expect to learn.

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Part 2: First Generation—Signs of Narcissism in Families of Origin

Part 3: Second Generation—Signs of Sexual Naivety
As applies to Type 1: The “Doubting” Spouse, Type 2: The “Fire-Flirting” Spouse, and Type 3: The “Polluted” Spouse. All three types of sexual sinners exhibit a certain level of sexual naivety and ignorance.

Part 4: Second Generation: The Fire-Flirting Spouse
As applies to Type 2: The “Fire-Flirting” Spouse and Type 3: The “Polluted” Spouse

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Part 5: Second Generation: The Bitter and Hate-Filled Spouse
As applies to Type 3: The “Polluted” Spouse. At this stage, the marriage gets steadily worse.

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Part 6: Third & Fourth Generations: Children and Grandchildren

These are just snippets of the actual questionnaire to give you an idea of what you'll learn about your marriage by participating in the Survey.

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When you submit each part, you’ll be given the link to the next one. You can copy the link so you can take the next part at your convenience.

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What People Say About the Survey

Analyze Your Answers to the Survey

At the end of the Survey, you'll be able to download a free 14-page eReport to help you determine which of the three sin types your sexless marriages falls into. An overview will help you determine if you have a Type 1: The "Doubting" Spouse, Type 2: The "Fire-Flirting" Spouse, or Type 3: The "Polluted" Spouse?

Then you'll be given plans for overcoming clustered love sins as they apply to the three different types of sexless marriages and without natural affection spouses. You'll also be given additional resources for working with your particular sexless-marriage situation.

Free eReport When You Participate in the Survey

At the end of the Survey, you’ll be able to download a free 36-page eReport Everyone Is an Adult Child, God Doesn’t Tell Children to Love Their Parents—God Tells Children to Leave Their Parents.

In the "Thank You" eReport you'll find:

1. Three responsibilities God gives parents in raising their children
2. Three attitudes God expects children to have toward their parents
3. Three blessings God bestows on children who grow up in unloving homes
4. Three ways God teaches for reclaiming your life and moving on

Over the years I've shared this report many times to help Christians unload childish problem-solving techniques they've saved from their childhood. Other times they wanted to know what their attitude should be toward an overbearing parent or in-law. Sometimes they asked if they were sinning because they felt relief instead of grief when an abusive parent or in-law died.

From the responses I've gotten, I believe this eReport Everyone Is an Adult Child will be a valuable thank-you gift in exchange for participating in the Survey. You cannot buy this eReport or find it on my website. It's reserved as a gift for those who participate in the Survey.

Thank you in advance for your participation in the Sexless Marriages & Without Natural Affection 4-Generational Survey. Your anonymous answers will expand and improve my teaching on sexless marriages, which I will share with you. Together we can grow and become more effective in our personal lives and in our efforts to teach others.

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We live in the real world where everyone has to make his or her own choice if they are going to be loving or without natural affection (2 Timothy 3:1-5). We can only make that choice for ourselves and attempt to hold others accountable for their own choices.

May God forgive us all for our naivety and gullibility in the past. And may he bring us into his marvelous light and love that we might be bright beacons for those in the world who desperately search the Internet for answers to the #1 marriage problem--sexless marriages and dead bedrooms. To God be the glory forever and ever as we celebrate his love for us and our children.

Always in his service,
Patsy
Patsy Rae Dawson

P.S. Please share this Survey information with your family, friends, and spiritual leaders so they can benefit from the eye-opening experience of participating in this Sexless Marriages & Without Natural Affection 4-Generational Survey. The questionnaire covers Narcissism in Your Family of Origin, Naivety and Clustered Love Sins in Your Marriage, Enabling and Narcissism in Your Children. and Potential Harm to Your Grandchildren from Sexless Marriages.